Running Around: Cheers to toasting a very important 21st birthday
It seems like only yesterday when I was 21 and buying my college boyfriend a beer because he was only 20.
Now, 30 years later, my daughter is turning 21, and — although my mother never would have done it for me — I have decided to take her out for her first drink.
Our plans include a fun night at the Pittsburgh Improv, dinner and then ordering her first cocktail exactly at midnight on her birthday.
I figure I will be there to keep her safe, and we will get to experience a milestone in her life together. She plans to order a cosmopolitan, like Carrie on “Sex and the City.”
Unlike many college students her age, this truly will be my daughter's first real drink. She has stuck to her guns about not drinking, even though some of her college friends have left her out of their plans because they knew she wouldn't drink.
She says she doesn't plan on becoming a big drinker and really doesn't feel the need to overindulge. She doesn't see a purpose for it. I'm not sure what the future holds for her in that department, but my hopes are that she hangs onto that conviction.
We have talked many times about what happens if she does overindulge.
She has made a solemn promise to me never to drink and drive, and if she finds herself in a situation when she shouldn't be driving — but needs to get home — she will call me. In turn, I have made a promise not to judge her or get upset and to just be there if she needs me.
Although I'm aware that many times promises are not kept — and I've made my fair share of lapses in judgment — I'm keeping my fingers crossed and hoping my daughter keeps her lapses to a minimum.
Joanne Barron is a staff writer for Trib Total Media. She can be reached at 412-324-1406 or firstname.lastname@example.org.