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Cancer survivors' stories show strength, tell tales of learning what's truly important

Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Sylvia Lowery-Lewis, 59, of Highland Park undergoes a second round of chemotherapy at Allegheny General Hospital. Lowery-Lewis, a triple-negative breast cancer survivor, started a blog dedicated to woman with that complex form of the disease. Triple-negative is an aggressive type of breast cancer that can appear twice as often in black woman. 'I don't know what tomorrow is going to bring, but I try to live my days to the fullest that I can. I try to still be the strength in my family,' she said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Sylvia Lowery-Lewis, 59, of Highland Park undergoes a second round of chemotherapy at Allegheny General Hospital.  Lowery-Lewis, a triple-negative breast cancer survivor, started a blog dedicated to woman with that complex form of the disease.  Triple-negative is an aggressive type of breast cancer that can appear twice as often in black woman. 'I don't know what tomorrow is going to bring, but I try to live my days to the fullest that I can.  I try to still be the strength in my family,' she said.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop speaks with Sandy Kagle, a radiological technologist, in Allegheny General Hospital before getting a mammogram. Experts advise cancer patients to ask a lot of questions and educate themselves.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop speaks with Sandy Kagle, a radiological technologist, in Allegheny General Hospital before getting a mammogram. Experts advise cancer patients to ask a lot of questions and educate themselves.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop, finds relief from an ice pack on her right side hours after undergoing a surgical procedure called a re-excision. The procedure, common following an initial mastectomy, reduces the odds of recurrence.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em>  Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop, finds relief from an ice pack on her right side hours after undergoing a surgical procedure called a re-excision. The procedure, common following an initial mastectomy, reduces the odds of recurrence.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills lets her dog Lucky out while having some rest and relaxation time at her camp at Sandy Lake, Mercer County. The campground became a refuge while she underwent chemotherapy.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills lets her dog Lucky out while having some rest and relaxation time at her camp at Sandy Lake, Mercer County. The campground became a refuge while she underwent chemotherapy.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Registered nurse Walter Livingston draws blood from Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills. Bennett elected to have a double mastectomy in February. 'I'd rather it be me than someone else in my family. I knew I could survive it. I'm a fighter,' she said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Registered nurse Walter Livingston draws blood from Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills. Bennett elected to have a double mastectomy in February.  'I'd rather it be me than someone else in my family. I knew I could survive it. I'm a fighter,' she said.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills has blood drawn from her port during a check-up in Forbes Regional Hospital. Bennett elected to have a double mastectomy last February. 'I'd rather it be me than someone else in my family. I knew I could survive it. I'm a fighter,' she said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills has blood drawn from her port during a check-up in Forbes Regional Hospital. Bennett elected to have a double mastectomy last February.  'I'd rather it be me than someone else in my family.  I knew I could survive it.  I'm a fighter,' she said.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Tia Baker, 42, of the Hill District sets up merchandise for the Ujamaa Collective open-air marketplace event. 'Instantly, I knew I was going to come through this. I wasn't going to die from this. That was it,' she said. Baker has said working with Ujamaa has been healing for her.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Tia Baker, 42, of the Hill District sets up merchandise for the Ujamaa Collective open-air marketplace event. 'Instantly, I knew I was going to come through this. I wasn't going to die from this.  That was it,' she said. Baker has said working with Ujamaa has been healing for her.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills shows her love for her mother, Arlene Murray, 54, of Canonsburg while spending time at their camp at Sandy Lake, Mercer County. 'I was embarrassed to tell my parents I had breast cancer. It's something that's kind of private. I didn't know what to say to my mom,' Bennett said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Darshell Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills shows her love for her mother, Arlene Murray, 54, of Canonsburg while spending time  at their camp at Sandy Lake, Mercer County. 'I was embarrassed to tell my parents I had breast cancer.  It's something that's kind of private.  I didn't know what to say to my mom,'  Bennett said.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Tia Baker, 42, of the Hill District was less than a month into breast-cancer therapy when she began work as boutique manager at the Ujamaa Collective in the Hill District. 'This was a healing space for me. I actually get to contribute to women's lives and the world,' she said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Tia Baker, 42, of the Hill District was less than a month into breast-cancer therapy when she began work as boutique manager at the Ujamaa Collective in the Hill District. 'This was a healing space for me. I actually get to contribute to women's lives and the world,' she said.
Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop — a stage two breast cancer survivor — has a mammogram in Allegheny General Hospital. 'It was more devastating to see my hair come out, more (devastating) than the cancer. But I dealt with it because it's more important to have my life than worry about my hair — plus, my hair will come back,' Herring-Turner said.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em> Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop — a stage two breast cancer survivor — has a mammogram in Allegheny General Hospital. 'It was more devastating to see my hair come out, more (devastating) than the cancer.  But I dealt with it because it's more important to have my life than worry about my hair — plus, my hair will come back,' Herring-Turner said.
' Jasmine Goldband | Tribune-Review - LaVerne Baker Hotep spends time with her granddaughter Leah Baker-Fowler, 8, and daughter Tia Baker, 42, in their home in the Hill District. Hotep has long told Baker, 'We teach what we need to learn.
<div style='float:right;width:100%;' align='right'><em>' Jasmine Goldband  |  Tribune-Review</em></div>LaVerne Baker Hotep spends time with her granddaughter Leah Baker-Fowler, 8, and daughter Tia Baker, 42, in their home in the Hill District.  Hotep has long told Baker, 'We teach what we need to learn.
Special Report
Breast Cancer:
A Journey For Recovery

Breast cancer is more likely to appear in black women under age 40, according to the nonprofit Komen foundation. Struck by such disparities, the Tribune-Review worked since March to explore trends and the research addressing them. Though men can contract breast cancer, women comprise most patients and survivors. Their stories are critical to fostering awareness and education, Purcell said.

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Sunday, Sept. 30, 2012, 12:05 a.m.
 

If you want a sob story, look elsewhere.

Not that women don't cry when breast cancer strikes. The news can crush them, twist their lives into a question mark, drop them into denial.

But patients say beyond those immediate reactions, their stories show what it means to survive, grow stronger and rethink what's important in life.

The life lessons are beyond any price.

“It helped me find my voice,” said Sharon Herring-Turner, 61, of Perry Hilltop. A partial mastectomy in June took her right breast, chemotherapy drained her stamina and surgery made it tough to drive. Yet the mother of two learned to speak her mind, knowing “you might not see that person again, or I might not be here to say what I need to say.”

The removal of Darshell Bennett's breasts to cancer “opened my mind to the world a lot” and liberated her from small stressors.

“It's changed me because if I die tomorrow, I would die happy,” said Bennett, 39, of Penn Hills. “I'm just happy that I'm alive. I feel happy, and I'm blessed, and I don't worry about it. I take more time for myself.”

Following her diagnosis, Tia Baker, 42, of the Hill District said she began to understand what her mother always said: We teach what we need to learn. She imagines her cancer arose, in a sense, from unresolved ills.

“When we don't heal ourselves on a mental or spiritual level, it manifests itself on a physical level,” said Baker, a mother of three.

A primary care provider told Baker that she was too young to worry about breast cancer when she sought a mammogram. Screening results in November 2010 revealed a cancerous mass. She underwent six weeks of radiation and lumpectomy, but opted out of chemotherapy.

Family ties

Black women once shied from discussing or even acknowledging their breast cancer. Sometimes their families helped cover it up, spread excuses. Fear, stigma and shame about the disease ran deep.

“That still exists today. Maybe not as much,” said Baker's mother, LaVerne Baker Hotep of Turtle Creek. A Pittsburgh radio broadcaster, Hotep long has worked with the American Cancer Society, the Center for Victims of Violence and Crime and other groups to raise breast-cancer awareness among black women.

Until her daughter's diagnosis, “I never considered it was something I'd have to deal with close up, especially not my daughter.”

She grasped it on an intellectual level, but found it difficult emotionally.

“You think, how are you going to get through this?” Hotep said.

Baker knew the answer right away.

“Instantly, I knew I was going to come through this,” she said. “I wasn't going to die from this. That was it.”

Baker's strategy echoes stories from other survivors across the region. She made a conscious decision — opting to live, she said.

“We can decide, ‘I'm not going to die from this,' or we can decide, ‘I'm not going to fight anymore,' ” Baker said. “We do get to choose whether or not we want to get better.”

Her cancer even taught her son a lesson, he said.

“It can hit anybody,” said Brandon Baker, 25, of the Hill District. “It brings your family together when a tragedy happens. It shouldn't be like that, but it is.”

Bennett was embarrassed at first to tell her parents. She didn't know what to say. A frequent question — “Why me?” — never struck her. She underwent a double mastectomy in February.

“I'd rather it be me than someone else in my family,” she said. “I knew I could survive it. I'm a fighter.”

Still, chemotherapy nearly reduced her to tears, she said.

Her mother, Arlene Murray, 54, was angry at the world.

Her first thought: “My only child is going to die,” said Murray of Canonsburg. “That was my biggest fear. It's still my fear.”

Murray hovers over Bennett — wants to know where her daughter is, what she's doing. Text messages and phone calls multiply. Bennett said she learned “to accept that.”

Heroes

Herring-Turner's cancer brought her son and daughter, Robert Herring, 31, and Dominique Herring, 28, closer.

“They seem now to talk more and communicate with each other more. They seem to get along better,” Herring-Turner said.

The second-oldest of 11 siblings, she still views her late father as her hero. He died of lung cancer in 1999, about six to seven years after his diagnosis.

He stayed on the move even during chemotherapy, Herring-Turner recalled. He took the bus to and from his treatments, carrying himself as a soldier, she said.

Human resilience rises to the forefront when a potentially fatal disease materializes, support workers said.

“I think when you are faced with something like breast cancer or other serious conditions, you dig deep for strength that maybe you didn't know you had,” said Angela Ford, a support-group facilitator for Bloomfield-based Cancer Caring Center.

Women with strong support from friends and family may be “even more successful in drawing on that strength because they have people reminding them, ‘You're a strong woman,' ” Ford said.

On a warm August evening, Hotep sat on her daughter's porch and remembered the devastation brought by the 2010 diagnosis.

“You were amazing through that,” she said to Baker, recalling her courage and grace. “Your strength was just incredible — incredible — through that. … I knew there were times you had fears you didn't express. But I think your courage helped the family through the process.”

Baker paused before acknowledging: “It definitely came from a place I didn't know was there.”

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