Years ago, when my children were smaller, a mother dropped off her son for a play date. She asked if I had any guns in the house.
I told her it was none of her business, that it would be like me asking her how much money she had in the bank. A legitimate question is “Will my kids be safe at your house?” and the answer to that question is “Yes.”
First of all, her kid would have had to find out if I had any guns. Then he would have had to find out where they are. Then he'd have had to find the key to the locker. Then he'd have had to find the bullets. Then he'd have had to figure out which bullets go in which gun. Then he'd have had to figure out how to load and operate the gun.
Lots of things would have had to happen in sequence, and the risk was pretty low.
I'm looking forward to a time when there can be an intelligent discussion on this issue, but I'm not holding my breath.