Get creative, sentimental and celebrate Mom
Mother’s Day is an opportunity to show your love and care to the woman (or women) who helped you become the person you are today. Even if there has been upset or discord, you would not be here if not for her, so let the gratitude start there.
You don’t need to buy flowers (though you could pick some) or a card (but you could make one) or lavish gifts. Spending time and acknowledging the love between you is all that is required. A little bit of effort goes a long way, so be there for her. Your presence is more important than any presents.
If your mom did it all on her own, you have even more to thank her for. You know how hard she worked to take care of you and your siblings. Single mothers are special, a rare breed who take on the world and raise their families, often putting their own needs and comfort to the side.
It really takes a very dedicated and loving woman to raise children by herself. I know many who work two jobs because that’s what it takes to make a life for their families. There are many reasons why these women are single, and in some cases, it is to protect the children from negativity. They sacrifice and make this world a better place, as their love and dedication trickles down to their offspring, who will do the same.
Please also remember your mother-in-law, grandmother and aunts who have shown you love. They say it takes a village to raise a child, and all the women who have positively impacted your life deserve a little recognition on this day (and every other one as well).
When I was in my 20s, I threw a Mother’s Day party for my mom and invited all my female friends. Twenty-five women and me, and everyone had a great time. It was a chance for my mother to hear what a great job she did raising me, because she got lots of compliments from all in attendance. I loved how she was lifted up by the experience, and if she were around today, I would do it again.
I am aware that not all of us had good mothering, and if you are estranged from your mother, that does not make you a bad person. Sometimes things go wrong, and the people who are supposed to protect us do the opposite, and that is a very sad experience. In cases like this, I recommend that you acknowledge another woman in your life, someone who has helped you, and just say thanks in whatever way that inspires you.
So, it’s time to get creative and sentimental, because that’s what this holiday is all about. Celebrate your mom and other women in your life who have nurtured you, and let them know that you would not be where you are today without them. A little recognition goes a long way.